Happiness

Welcome. The first features of pride is what the alcoholics called 'separation from'. Separation from what, Elder asked me. Separation from people I guess. Not really, separation from reality. Reality is the truth or facts concerning a particular situation or event. Examples of such are: (1) avoiding people we know will tell us the truth,  (2) stonewalling or rejecting feedbacks,  (3) focusing on what we love doing for pleasure such as social media, instead of what will make us or transform us to become a leader,  (4)not taking time to evaluate and assess the result we produce,  (5) not understanding who we are,  (6) not understanding the world around us.  Why do we separate from reality? Here are some reasons : (a) habits,  (b) emotional attachment(s): we have received the praises or accolades from people who are like us or worse for negative habits or we have benefited or still benefiting from such negative lifestyle,  (c) lack of understanding ...

Welcome. There are few things that are difficult to differentiate, pride and great self esteem are good examples says the elder. Self esteem is defined as the confidence in once ability or capacity to think or the confidence in your capacity to face life challenges. Whereas, it is easy to know proud people who will reject money or gifts even when they are dying in penury. You know people who cling to their ways even when they are bad, majorly because they treasured their ways or have been like that for a long time. Obsession in once lifestyle even when the lifestyle is nothing to be written home about. These are all examples of pride, elder told me. What if the life the proud man celebrates is working? What if the habbit(s) the proud man treasures has always won him medals or saved him from trouble I asked. Good question the elder replied. Pride and great self esteem are two sides of a coin! Every successful man has some element of pride that he or she manages to get the work done. The...

If a high school student approach you for an advice about which career is the best to embark on as a life profession, what will your answer be? A mechanical engineer, medical doctor, lawyer, journalist? Which of these is the best? In my opinion the question is hard to answer. What is the yardstick for measuring best? Even if the best is defined or seen in the light of which profession gives highest financial returns. If we should see best as the profession that gives rest of mind in terms of job security, we will still also have serious debate. If we are to define best in terms of job security, then we think of jobs with little or no problems. However, an elder told me that most career problems have their roots in personality issues. The first on our list is hubris. Hubris is the excessive pride or the pride that destroys a great man. If great men are destroyed by hubris, what happens to mere men? Be careful about pride, an elder told me because proud people don't realize they are ...